Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Grinds My Gears: Judging Folks By Their Sign

Something that bugs me when I tell people what month I was born, they immediately figure out what sign I am. Well actually that's not it, it's when they try to assume things about my character/personality based on it.

Growing up, I never really cared much about signs. Most of it was faith based and I didn't believe in somebody telling you how to live your life like a slave to fate. The only reason that I even found out I was a Virgo was because of a Nas song that sounded dope. Enter my nickname - initially Virgo Diamond and then the name I go by here. Virgo Kent.

I only do it because its the sign I was born under. I couldn't tell you anything about what being a Virgo means and I don't care.

What I do care about is people trying to say I act a certain way because of my sign. Or if people try to date because of sign compatibility (and figure out that you broke up b/c of it). It's all fate and frankly I'd like to give life more credit for shaping me and people around me than something I had no control over.

If you say I'm acting a certain way because of my sign, you ignore the fact that I worked hard to become the person I am now and the same with other people. I'm not this way by chance or accident, it's because of my circumstances. If you don't want to date somebody based on their sign or fear being incompatible because of it - GET OVER IT. You date people and their personality, not a sign.

And people don't act a certain way because of what month they were born. It almost shortchanges their circumstances and makes them feel like they can't help who they are - one of the biggest cardinal sins ever uttered.

I guess that what it boils down to. People making another excuse that they can't help who they are. And I'm tired of it.

1 comment:

  1. AMEN! Well said.
    I'm not stubborn because I'm a Taurus. I'm stubborn because I work at it!